Breaking the silence: The struggles of men’s mental health and the path to healing

In today's world, men continue to face significant challenges when it comes to mental health. Society’s expectations, harmful stereotypes, and the deep-rooted stigma surrounding vulnerability often mean that men suffer in silence. Whether it’s dealing with childhood trauma, post-partum depression, the emotional strain of divorce, or the struggles with daily expectations and life itself. Many men carry these burdens without seeking help. The pressure to ‘man up’ or ‘get on with it’ can be overwhelming, and it’s crucial that as a society, we start breaking down these barriers and create a safe space for men to express their feelings.


The stark reality of men’s mental health in the UK


Mental health issues among men are alarmingly prevalent, yet often overlooked or dismissed. According to UK suicide statistics, men are three times more likely to die by suicide than women. In 2021 alone, there were 4,032 male suicides in the UK, a tragic reminder of how deeply mental health issues affect men. Shockingly, men aged 45-49 have the highest suicide rate. 


But the struggles go beyond just suicide. Male post-partum depression is another underreported issue, as men often face the pressures of fatherhood without the emotional support they need. It’s estimated that around 1 in 10 men suffer from post-partum depression, yet many remain silent due to fear of being judged or misunderstood.


Divorce, too, presents a significant challenge for men’s mental health. The emotional toll of divorce can lead to depression, anxiety, and even suicidal thoughts. In fact, men are less likely to seek support following a divorce, partly due to the societal expectation that men should be stoic and unaffected by such events.


The hidden roots: Childhood trauma, sexual abuse, and addiction


Many men’s mental health struggles stem from deep-seated issues such as childhood trauma and sexual abuse, which often go unaddressed. A significant number of men who experienced trauma in their youth mask their pain through unhealthy coping mechanisms such as addiction to alcohol, drugs, or pornography. This vicious cycle of self-medication can numb their feelings temporarily, but ultimately, it exacerbates their mental health issues.


Unfortunately, due to societal pressures, these men may not seek help. The stigma surrounding male victims of sexual abuse is still prevalent, and the notion that men should be ‘tough’ and ‘unbreakable’ prevents many from seeking therapy or support.


Stereotypes that men must break through


The pressure to conform to traditional stereotypes of masculinity is one of the main reasons why men continue to suffer in silence. Phrases like “man up,” “don’t cry,” or “boys don’t show emotions” create an environment where men are discouraged from expressing vulnerability. This often leads to repressed emotions, anxiety, depression, and, tragically at times, suicide. 


For men in the armed forces or military, the culture is even more ingrained. Service personnel are encouraged to be tough, resilient, and stoic, which can result in trauma being dismissed as weakness. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression, and anxiety are common issues among military veterans, but seeking help is often seen as a sign of weakness in these circles.


Men’s support groups: A step in the right direction


Despite the challenges, there is hope. Men’s mental health is beginning to be recognised, and groups dedicated to men’s well-being are on the rise. **Men’s Sheds, mental health football teams, and walking groups are helping men connect and share their struggles in a supportive environment. These groups provide a space for men to bond over shared experiences, reduce isolation, and encourage each other to seek professional help.


Though still limited, these groups represent a shift in how society is starting to approach men’s mental health. More men are realising that they don’t have to face their struggles alone, and they can benefit from connecting with others who understand their pain.


Types of issues men struggle with


Men struggle with a wide range of mental health issues, including:


Depression. Often underdiagnosed in men due to societal expectations.

Anxiety. Frequently masked by irritability or anger.

Addiction. A common coping mechanism for unresolved emotional pain.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Especially among military personnel and those in the forces. 

Relationship Issues. Including the emotional toll of divorce or the pressures of fatherhood.


How Phiona can support men’s mental wellbeing? 


Phiona offers a variety of therapeutic interventions to help men navigate mental health challenges. Whether you are struggling with past trauma, relationship issues, or simply need someone to talk to, Phiona is here to help.


Talking Therapy. A safe space to explore emotions, share struggles, and gain insight into your mental health.

Hypnotherapy. Helps reframe negative thought patterns and overcome mental barriers.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). A powerful tool for reducing stress and anxiety.

IEMT (Integral Eye Movement Therapy). Focuses on transforming traumatic memories and emotional issues.

Breathwork. A therapeutic technique that helps manage stress and promotes relaxation.

Bach Flower Remedies. Natural remedies that support emotional healing and well-being.


Phiona offers both in-person sessions in Havant and online therapy services available nationwide, ensuring that men across the UK can access support regardless of their location.


A call to action: Break the silence


Men’s mental health is an urgent issue that cannot be ignored any longer. Society must challenge the outdated stereotypes that tell men to bottle up their emotions and ‘man up.’ It’s time to create a culture where men feel empowered to speak out, seek support, and break free from the chains of toxic masculinity. 


Men, you are not alone. Support is available, and reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health, take the first step and seek help today. By embracing vulnerability, breaking free from harmful stereotypes, and seeking the help you need, it can begin to create a more supportive and understanding environment for men’s mental health. It’s time to start the conversation and end the silence.


Whether you're dealing with stress, anxiety, trauma, bereavement or looking to break habits, reframe fears, or phobias. Phiona can help you develop approaches to overcome these barriers that prevent you from living life to the fullest. Helping you navigate life’s challenges and take the next step towards a brighter, calmer future.


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